Thursday, June 07, 2007

So What's New?

I've spent the better part of the day mewling and puking on the nets, checking my email, reading blogs, rechecking my email, reading more blogs, rechecking my email--. You get the point, don't you.

That was the portion of the day when I was not telling D that I wanted him out, out, out.

I can hear a collective gasp. But really, those of you who are careful readers must have know this was coming.

I want him out because he (1) doesn't want to be married any more, and (2) wants to move to Oregon. I'm not sure how those things are related, but this is a guy that has never really been alone, so I'm willing to bet he's got some close personal friend waiting for him up there. Whatever.

He announced this, apropos of nothing, about a month ago. I've been sitting on it and with it since then. The whole thing is a mystery to me, and it's not like I'm an ostrich when it comes to things psychodynamic. He seems incapable of or unwilling to offer any rational explanation. He can't even come up with a dramatic one that I could make some money off in Nashville.

So here I am, "ahem"-years old, married for almost two decades and, hey world, welcome me back.


  1. Holy shit Jane, what the hell happened? Are you ok?

    Ok, that was a really dumb, dumb, dumb question.

  2. That's a big change, but it sounds like it's time for it to happen. I'm sure it will all work out for the best. Feel free to lean on your "Internet friends" when you need to!

  3. holy hell. welcome back, jane. but you were always welcome. xoxo

  4. If he doesn't want to be married, and wants to go to Oregon, and told you this a month ago, he should get the heck out already. Sheesh.

    I haven't called because I wasn't sure you were ready to talk. I'm here when/if you do.

    Lots of love.

  5. Yay. Someone to be single, intelligent and fabulous with. We are going to ROCK!

  6. Tell his ass to move to Oregon and enjoy the freakin' rain! You seem like you'd be better off without him anyway.
    Hang tough...

  7. Simon5:20 AM

    I'm sorry Jane. I did wonder about some of your earlier comments (hey, close reading's the only skill I have, remember). And I know, since I'm in marriage #3, that even though it might be the right thing to do it's seldom easy to go through. Platitudes, all. I'll be thinking of you (a fairly useless offer compared to "You're in my prayers," but what's an atheist to do?).

  8. You can totally do some one-upsmanship by coming to Idaho. You don't have to stay, but I personally believe Idaho trumps Oregon any day, and you are more than invited... you are WELCOME to come rest your weary soul.

    Here's to "onward and upward", Jane!

  9. If you need a beach break, come on down to the Eastern Shore of Virginia.

  10. Holy Crap Jane. I was wondering why I haven't seen you lately. If you are in need of some therapy (knitting) I'll be in the shop all of today.

    Big hugs to you.


  11. Shucks, you all make my life so much better. Truly. Whoever said the internets are isolating and blahblah, didn't know what they're talking about.

    queen: you'll hear the screams...!

    average jane: the time was probably right some time ago. i've always been a little late to the fair.

    leahpeah: i feel your hugs

    shani: i will when I am

    sueb0b: when i read your comment, i got a BIG smile on my face. can't wait for our adventures to begin.

    nina: and he gets even more depressed when the weather is bad!

    toadyjoe: i'd be on the next plane, but i'm already eaten with envy at just looking at your photos. still, you may see me one day.

    simon: #3?! You are the eternal optimist. Thanks for the kind thoughts, if not the, weren't you the guy getting all the mail from the monks!

    denise: i don't think i've ever been to the eastern shore of va. i'll put that on my list of places to go.

    danielle: yep, i kept waiting for the shop to clear out to tell you, but damnit, girl, you are popular!!!


  12. All I can do is echo the Holy Shit comments above... Holy Shit.
    I really hope you're OK.

  13. What is it with Oregon? I mean it is pretty and all, but I can't understand the pull. If you need a little SoCal break, head on down to us. I miss you terribly! Wishing you all the best, all the time.


So--whaddaya think?