tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23068162.post401835340028154437..comments2023-06-27T04:08:01.079-07:00Comments on ByJane: And A Happy New year to you too....ByJanehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10540902996183063666noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23068162.post-6369671510481183562007-09-21T10:05:00.000-07:002007-09-21T10:05:00.000-07:00single mom: thank YOU for your comment. get the ...single mom: thank YOU for your comment. <BR/>get the apples and the honey. Your son will love them and you'll have a sweet year!ByJanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10540902996183063666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23068162.post-64876780529711775212007-09-21T09:59:00.000-07:002007-09-21T09:59:00.000-07:00Thank you so much for writing this! I can't believ...Thank you so much for writing this! I can't believe how guilty I have felt for all these years - truth is, I have no Jewish Family to speak of - I am an only child who has divorced parents (since I was four). I attended temple with my mom as a child and then once or twice in college.<BR/>Through my 20's and 30's I went by myself in the town I lived. Now, I am newly divorced myself (my husband was not Jewish so I went by myself even when I was married).<BR/>My son is just a toddler - I did bring him to a child service when he was a baby but now I don't feel like dragging him since he does not yet understand the holiday.<BR/><BR/>I don't want to go = so, can I say THANK YOU to you all - I still love my life and my G-d but I don't want to go by myself!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23068162.post-29541061938275303622007-09-18T09:32:00.000-07:002007-09-18T09:32:00.000-07:00cynthia:Thanks so much for your caring--the opposi...cynthia:<BR/><BR/>Thanks so much for your caring--the opposite of intrusive! It isn't the rabbis--the one's I've met here are clearly of the New Breed you talk about. A lot of it is me--too many years of being the only Jew in town, too many years of sorority girls at temple and school, too many years of going alone even as a kid. Whew! That was therapeutic!ByJanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10540902996183063666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23068162.post-16370230582678108712007-09-17T15:24:00.000-07:002007-09-17T15:24:00.000-07:00Gosh - I can imagine how you felt. It's tough to ...Gosh - I can imagine how you felt. It's tough to go alone and most synagogues don't reach out so well to new congregants. If you'd like, I'll ask my rabbi for the names of some rabbis out there who know how to generate community - as I've written about on my blog there is a new generation of rabbis creating amazing communities that reach out to all, at all levels of observance. You shouldn't be deprived because of a lack of rabbinic leadership. Let me know and I'll get you some names before Yom Kippur. Sorry if I'm being intrusive, I just so know how you feel. I felt the same way the whole time I lived in LA.Cynthia Samuelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09246114204964806957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23068162.post-23367852634039698902007-09-16T11:28:00.000-07:002007-09-16T11:28:00.000-07:00mrsmogul: so, c'mon over...or maybe I'll sooner b...mrsmogul: so, c'mon over...or maybe I'll sooner be in NYC.ByJanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10540902996183063666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23068162.post-44405750338928409102007-09-16T05:50:00.000-07:002007-09-16T05:50:00.000-07:00I would have loved to have gone to a gathering at ...I would have loved to have gone to a gathering at someone's house and eat a lot!! I love smoked salmon with bagels!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23068162.post-19220947145856386732007-09-15T12:33:00.000-07:002007-09-15T12:33:00.000-07:00cce: what's to know, as we would say in a good Br...cce: what's to know, as we would say in a good Brooklyn accent. The apples and honey were excellent; all that was missing was the challah.<BR/><BR/>denise: l'shana tova to you, too. my mother always believed that she could be closer to God on the Holydays outside in nature than in a synagogue.<BR/><BR/>sturdy girl: I don't know that this is a ritual so much as not pushing myself to do something I don't want to. My autumn wreath is hung on the door and I'm scrubbing down my kitchen today--because I want to.<BR/><BR/>queen: you make a fabulous Jew--as did Jesus. And did you miss the post where I said that before I learned I was Jewish, I thought I was Catholic?ByJanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10540902996183063666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23068162.post-72907719486529375492007-09-14T07:39:00.000-07:002007-09-14T07:39:00.000-07:00I do believe you're completely normal.I think this...I do believe you're completely normal.<BR/><BR/>I think this is some sort of strange divorce rite of passage - rejecting the holidays. I haven't really celebrated a holiday since 2003. I have done the mandatory Thanksgiving dinner, but nothing even close to the over the top decorating/celebrating I used to do when in a relationship. <BR/><BR/>This year, however I plan to do it all despite being single because this is the first year I WANT to. I'm pretty sure that's a sign of something good. <BR/><BR/>So you should just do or don't do whatever you feel or don't feel like doing. Maybe what you're doing now is a ritual of sorts?Sturdy Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04369327354706009408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23068162.post-56823398462103520802007-09-14T04:39:00.000-07:002007-09-14T04:39:00.000-07:00Happy New year, Jane. We did nothing either....Ba...Happy New year, Jane. We did nothing either....Bad right along with you...My family denied being Jewish for so many years I ended up being raised Christian.. Michael was just too tired...<BR/>Sweetness and blessings for the new year...Denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15127250126440575740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23068162.post-17302189439270684622007-09-13T14:00:00.000-07:002007-09-13T14:00:00.000-07:00Knowing nothing about High HolyDays, I can still f...Knowing nothing about High HolyDays, I can still feel sympathetic as I know that I would not even consider Midnight Mass on X-mas Eve unless tied up and dragged there by my nearest and dearest. I am unabashedly secular and am as likely to attend synagogue as a Christian Sunday service which means that I too appreciate the foods of important holidays more than the religious import. So I hope the apples and honey are delicious and your new year is the sweetest!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com